Educate | Explore | Empower

ONYX is a Leather Fraternity for gay and bisexual Men of Color. Our Mission is to EDUCATE, EXPLORE, and EMPOWER. We educate Men of Color about the Leather/BDSM/Fetish/Kink community, provide a safe space for exploration, and empower all to live their leather journey more freely, safely, and happily.  There is much more to ONYX than just having a good time or wearing leather/kink/fetish gear. Our Brotherhood is about togetherness, being present, helping your Brothers through thick and thin, giving rather than receiving, and supporting our Community.

Our in-house education programs help others expand their fetish skills with demonstrations on Bondage, Electroplay, Spanking, Fire Play/ Cupping, Flogging, Assplay, Sounding, and many more. Our long-term partnership with Widener University’s PhD Human Sexuality Program exposes future clinicians and educators to the Leather community. ONYX Mid-Atlantic (ONYXMA) has raised more than $40,000 for Mama’s Family, SMYAL, Ali Forney Center, Scarlett’s Foundation, Eagle Wings, MAST, Casa Ruby, Joseph’s House, HIPS and Brother Help Thyself.

To become affiliated with us, as either a Full Brother or Associate, you must complete the application and be interviewed. You must also live in the DC/MD/VA/PA/NC/DE area. If you live in another part of the country, please refer to to find a chapter in your area.

Here’s an article from 2020 that discusses the importance of the space ONYX provides in the leather and kink community:

Opinion: Men of Color deserve space in the leather community.  ONYX provides it, Kyle Jackson (Golden Eagle ONYX), 9-28-2020

Brotherhood & Pledge Obligations

Brothers have voting rights and other privileges of membership and participation within the chapter, as well as the honor of wearing an ONYX back patch. Brothers are expected to participate in all club functions and be active in the community. The purpose of the Pledge Process is:

  1. To provide the pledge with a knowledge base to be a resource to all people, particularly people of color, who seek to know more about the leather/ fetish/ kink community
  2. To provide the pledge with tools to advocate for the leather/ fetish/ kink community and people of color in the community
  3. To facilitate the pledge’s personal journey by providing him with Brotherhood and bonding opportunities, and broadening his leather/ fetish/ kink horizons through experiential and academic learning opportunities

Collectively, the Pledges will be required to

  • Host and manage a Bar Night
  • Complete a Community Service Project
  • Conduct an educational seminar on leather/fetish/kink topics of their own choosing
  • Host a social for the Brothers
  • Participate the weekend of Mid-Atlantic Leather (typically MLK Weekend each year)

Associate Membership and Process Obligations

Associates have the privilege of wearing a membership patch that is identical to the ONYX back patch, but smaller. ONYX Mid-Atlantic does not confer patches based on friendship or familiarity. Associates are expected to conduct themselves with the honor and integrity expected of anyone wearing our patch. Associates are expected to participate fully in the life of ONYX Mid-Atlantic. The patch is a symbol of your commitment to help us achieve our goals summarized in our motto: Educate | Explore | Empower

Associate members of ONYX Mid-Atlantic may be men, women, or gender non-conforming individuals of any race/color/ethnicity, sexual orientation, or gender identification. A prospective Associate is required to complete a 6-month Associate Process. This requirement may be waived by exception for prospective Associates who are established members of the leather/kink/fetish community. The purpose of the Associate Process is:

  1. To provide the Associate with a knowledge base to be a resource to anyone who seeks to know more about the leather/ fetish/ kink community
  2. To introduce the Associates to the ONYXMA brotherhood and prepare those eligible to become future brothers of the chapter.
  3. To facilitate the Associate’s personal journey by providing them with Brotherhood and bonding opportunities, and broadening their leather/ fetish/ kink horizons through experiential and academic learning opportunities.

During the Process, the prospective Associates must participate in a series of educational sessions, support ONYX activities, and otherwise actively contribute to the Chapter. Collectively, the prospective Associates will be required to:

  • Host and manage a Munch
  • Complete a Community Service Project
  • Conduct an educational seminar on leather/fetish/kink topics of their own choosing
  • Host a social for the Brothers

Upon satisfactory completion of the Associate Process, an Associate’s patch will be granted.

Application and Interview

All parties interested in pledging must complete the application, available at the link below. There is no fee for the application, but you must be 21 years of age or older to complete the application, and must upload a photo (no nudes, please).

Update as of August 15, 2020:  Due to the COVID-19 Pandemic and out of a concern for the health and safety of our potential pledges ONYX Mid-Atlantic has decided to cancel the planned pledge application / pledge process that normally runs from Fall 2020 through Spring 2021.

The Associate application process anticipated to open in April, 2021 will be re-evaluated due to the COVID-19 Pandemic.  We will post an update No Later Than March 2021.

Our official Intake/Pledge Process will begin with a Meet and Greet on Saturday, October 10, 2020. The location will be revealed to those who confirm their planned attendance at (no later than 10am on October 10).  At this informal gathering is open to those interested in applying for either Full Brother or Associate members.  During the Meet and Greet you will have the opportunity to meet current Brothers and Associates, learn about ONYX and ask any questions you may have.

Prior to this meeting, you are encouraged to attend our events and get to know us and vice versa.  Attendance at the Meet and Greet is optional, but highly encouraged.

A date for interviews will be formally announced at the Meet and Greet and via our social media outlets.  The tentative date is November 28, 2020.

Anyone wishing to pledge MUST sit for an interview. An alternate date may be coordinated for those who cannot make the initial interview date, but the availability of slots for the alternate interviews will be extremely limited.

All applicants will be graded on their responses to five standard questions, as well as the quality of the responses provided in their application. Each applicant and application will be considered individually and not in comparison with other applicants. Please take the time to consider your answers before submitting your application. You may edit your responses to your application until the deadline on November 6, 2020.  A link to your individual application will be provided with your initial submission. Please direct any questions about the application process to

All applicants must note ONYX MA reserves the right to:

  1. Reject an application if the applicant is not from the DC/MD/VA/PA/NC/DE area
  2. Limit the number of slots available for the 2021 pledge class
  3. Limit the number of new Associate Memberships available
  4. Decline an application entirely
  5. Offer an applicant a class of membership other than that for which he applied
  6. Remove a pledge or associate at any point during the process

We will announce our new Pledges in December, with Pledging Activities to begin in January.  The minimum requirements for Pledges will include attendance at scheduled pledge meetings, completion of pledge assignments, and active participation in ONYX events during the pledge period. Any pledge who voluntarily chooses not to complete the process must re-apply the following year, with no guarantee of being accepted again.

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One Comment:

  1. Please inform me as to how to become a brother or associate member. Thank you,

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