Educate | Explore | Empower

ONYX is a Leather Fraternity for gay and bisexual Men of Color. Our Mission is to EDUCATE, EXPLORE, and EMPOWER. We educate Men of Color about the Leather/BDSM/Fetish/Kink community, provide a safe space for exploration, and empower all to live their leather journey more freely, safely, and happily.  There is much more to ONYX than just having a good time or wearing leather/kink/fetish gear. Our Brotherhood is about togetherness, being present, helping your Brothers through thick and thin, giving rather than receiving, and supporting our Community.

Our in-house education programs help others expand their fetish skills with demonstrations on Bondage, Electroplay, Spanking, Fire Play/ Cupping, Flogging, Assplay, Sounding, and many more. Our long-term partnership with Widener University’s PhD Human Sexuality Program exposes future clinicians and educators to the Leather community. ONYX Mid-Atlantic (ONYXMA) has raised more than $25,000 for Mama’s Family, SMYAL, Ali Forney Center, Scarlett’s Foundation, Eagle Wings, MAST, and Brother Help Thyself.

To become affiliated with us, as either a Full Brother or Associate, you must complete the application and be interviewed. You must also live in the DC/MD/VA/PA/NC/DE area. If you live in another part of the country, please refer to to find a chapter in your area.

Brotherhood & Pledge Obligations

Prospective Pledges and Associates must understand that this is a Leather, Kink, Fetish, Gear, Bondage/ Discipline/ Sadomasochism (BDSM) Fraternity and one MUST have a serious, demonstrable, and abiding interest or advanced training to be an ONYX man. We seek those who would help us further our mission. The ideal pledge is already on his own journey of exploration and discovery. He has had some leather, kink, or fetish experiences and sees ONYX as an opportunity to further that journey.

Not just anyone can be an ONYX Man. When pledging, prospective members will conduct themselves with respect at all times. If and when you become a Man of ONYX or an Associate, you must understand that you are an ONYX Man whether or not you are wearing a back patch.

Brothers have voting rights and other privileges within the chapter, as well as the honor of wearing an ONYX back patch. Brothers are expected to participate in all club functions and be active in the community.

To become a Brother, you must identify as a gay or bisexual Man of Color and complete a pledge process lasting about 4 months. During that process, you will be required to study the history of the Leather Community, Men of Color in that Community, and the history of ONYX. Pledges are given opportunities to learn about and explore various fetishes and kinks. Finally, pledges are expected to complete several projects as a group. Collectively, the Pledges will be required to

  • Host and manage a Bar Night
  • Complete a Community Service Project
  • Conduct an educational seminar on leather/fetish/kink topics of their own choosing
  • Host a social for the Brothers
  • Participate the weekend of Mid-Atlantic Leather (January 18-20, 2019)

Associate Membership

Associates may be men or women of any racial identity, sexual orientation, or gender identification. Depending on their individual level of experience, an Associate may be required to complete a 6-month Promise Period during which they must participate in a series of educational sessions, support ONYX activities, and otherwise actively contribute to the Chapter.  Upon satisfactory completion of the Promise Period, an Associate’s patch will be granted.

Application and Interview

All parties interested in pledging or associate membership must complete the application, available at the link below. There is no fee for the application, but you must be 21 years of age or older to complete the application, and must upload a photo (no nudes, please). The application will remain open and available until close of business (5pm) on November 9, 2018. Applications submitted after the deadline will not be considered under any circumstances.

Click here for the ONYX MA Membership Application.

Our official Intake/Pledge Process will begin with a Meet and Greet on Saturday, October 13, 2018. The location will be revealed to those who confirm their planned attendance to (no later than 10am on October 13). At this informal gathering, you can meet all of the current Brothers and Associates and ask any questions you may have. Prior to this meeting, you are encouraged to attend our events and get to know us and vice versa. Attendance at the Meet and Greet is optional, but encouraged.

A date for interviews will be announced at the Meet and Greet and via our social media outlets. Anyone wishing to pledge MUST sit for an interview. Certain applicants for Associate membership may be required to sit for an interview if they are not already established figures within the leather community. An alternate date will be coordinated for those who cannot make the initial interview date.

All applicants will be graded on their responses to five standard questions, as well as the quality of the responses provided in their application. Each applicant and application will be considered individually and not in comparison with other applicants. Please take the time to consider your answers before submitting your application. You may edit your responses to your application until the deadline on November 9th. A link to your individual application will be provided with your initial submission. Please direct any questions about the application process to

All applicants must note ONYX MA reserves the right to:

  1. Reject an application if the applicant is not from the DC/MD/VA/PA/NC/DE area
  2. Limit the number of slots available for the 2018 pledge class
  3. Limit the number of new Associate Memberships available
  4. Decline an application entirely
  5. Offer an applicant a class of membership other than that for which he applied
  6. Remove a pledge or associate at any point during the process

We will announce our new Pledges and Associates-in-Promise in December, with Pledging Activities to begin in January.  The minimum requirements for Pledges will include attendance at scheduled pledge meetings, completion of pledge assignments, and active participation in ONYX events during the pledge period. Any pledge who voluntarily chooses not to complete the process must re-apply the following year, with no guarantee of being accepted again.

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