Education

Disclaimer:  In all of the T.E.A.C.H educational materials, we attempt to also address the health and safety aspects of the kinks covered.  All kink play has risks, and by taking part in these activities you accept those risks and assume responsibility for them.  ONYX cannot accept any responsibility or liability for any accidents or harm that could be encountered during your kink play. Do Your Own Research.  Get Consent.  Be Safe.  Have Fun!

Articles and Demos

General

MASC4MASCARA
Recon News, Danny Thanh Nguyen (ByronicPunk), 1-15-21

New Year? New Kink!
Recon News, Lynx ONYX, 1-8-2021

Get Up, Get Out & Do Something!
Recon News, Lynx ONYX, 11-30-2020

28 Types of Kinky Sex Toys
healthline.com, Gabrielle Kasseli, 6-16-2020

Brothers In Leather:  The Men of ONYX
metroweekly.com, 1-17-2019

BDSM Pro ‘Orpheus Black’ Breaks Down Who’s Kinky Enough to Roll with This Fetish
cassiuslife.com, Chelsea A. Hamlet, 4-5-2018

35 Dos and DON’Ts of a Gay Leather Bar
advocate.com, Alexander Cheves, 11-9-2017

Khalid El Bey (SelfLaw ONYX): Educator, Activist…Wearer of the Crown
wyattevans.com, 2016

Kink and the Leather Community – Khalid El Bey (SelfLaw ONYX)
M3 Bear Essentials, 6-5-2016

Watch this video on YouTube.

Human Sexuality

Sex & Gender, Intersex and Gender Roles / Stereotypes
plannedparenthood.org

64 Terms That Describe Gender Identity and Expression
healthline.com, Mere Abrams, 12-20-2019

Range of Gender Identities
amaze.org, 6-20-2019

 

What Does It Mean to be Bi or Bisexual?
healthline.com, Maisha Johnson, 1-29-2018

What’s the Real Difference between Bi- and Pansexual?
rollingstone.com, Zachary Zane, 6-29-2018

Is Being Bisexual the Same Thing as Being Pansexual?
healthline.com, Sian Ferguson, 9-17-2019

Consent

Consent 101 – An Introduction
Kaleidoscope ONYX, 7-2020

Consensual Kink 101:  The Difference Between BDSM and Abuse
them.us, Lux Alptraum, 5-9-2018

Race in BDSM and Leather

How Black People Can Explore Sexuality Through BDSM
Tatayannah King, 2-1-2020

Race Issues in BDSM and Leather (An Interview with Dominion ONYX)
Alt Sex Talk, Master Taino, 2-11-2021

 

Tops and Bottoms

How to Top:  Our Tips for Becoming a Better, Safer Top in Bed
them.us, Matt Baume, 8-3-2020

How to Make Bottoming Easier:  Tips and Tricks for Safe Anal Sex
them.us, Matt Baume, 7-27-2020

30 Liquid Assets Every Gay Man Should Know
advocate.com, Alexander Cheves, 5-30-2016

Temperature Play & Hot Wax

Waxing Philosophic – Temperature Play & Hot Wax
Recon News, Lynx ONYX, 8-24-2020

Wax Play 101 – Introduction to Wax Play
Krome ONYX, 7-2020

Wax Play Demonstration
Lynx ONYX & Kaleidoscope ONYX, 2-2020

 

Cigar Play

Cigar Play – 101
Papa ONYX, 7-2020

Cock Rings

 

thepleasurechest.com, 2019
Check out the wide selection of items available at The Pleasure Chest.

Dynamics

Open Relationships
Recon News, Danny Thanh Nguyen (ByronicPunk), 12-14-2020

Dominion:  The Game, Part I
Recon News, Dominion ONYX, 11-16-2020

Six Simple Rules For The Novice Submissive
Recon News, Dominion ONYX, 9-14-2020

Six Simple Rules For Your M/s Dynamic
Recon News, Dominion ONYX, 7-24-2020

Flogging

How To Clean Your Flogger
FirebirdLeather.com, 4-13-2017

 

The Erotic Art of Flogging
Orpheus Black, Sanctuary Studios, 5-30-2015
https://orpheusblack.com/

YouTube Channel for Orpheus Black
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBgNABVRD4FHb9LcXUiht6A

 

Knifeplay

Skin & Steel:  A Primer to BDSM Knife Play
theblackpomegranate.com, MrBlk, 4-26-15

What is Knife Play?  Blade Play 101
boldpleasures.com, 7-13-2018

Knife Play Tutorial – Selecting a Knife
Orpheus Black, 3-5-2015

Watch this video on YouTube.

Race Play

Race Play – A Very Polarizing and Controversial Kink
Bear World Magazine, Kyle Jackson (Golden Eagle ONYX), 10-15-2019

Rubber Wear

Cleaning Your Rubber Wear
MacPack Featuring K9 ONYX, 3-28-2021

MacCastMedia
https://www.youtube.com/user/thebigggetmac
(Check Out the Other Amazing MacPack Videos)

 

Sounding (Urethral Play)

Sounding 101
Self Law ONYX, 2-7-2021

 

Watersports

Water Sports – The Golden Opportunity
Recon News, Derrick Otter Starr (ONYX), 9-30-2020

Our Transgender Friends – What You Should Know

Lip Service or Real Support for Transmen – Interview with Jack Thompson, IML 2019
ALT SEX Talk - Interview with Jack Thompson IML 2019ALT SEX TALK, Master Taino (ONYX Mid-Atlantic Associate), 12-9-2020

Complete YouTube Channel:  ALT SEX TALK

 

Achim Howard – The Transgender Community and AIDS
Surviving Voices, 12-3-2019

 

100 Easy Ways to Make the World Better for Trans People
Vice.com, Kai Isaiah-Jamal, 10-8-2018

A Beginner’s Guide to Being an Ally to Trans People
GLADD, Ted Revago, 11-7-2017

Trans 101 – The Basics (Gender Diversity Crash Course)
Minus18, minus18.org.au, 3-30-2017

 

11 Ways To Be A Great Trans*Ally
JR Thorpe, 4-24-2015

Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity Definitions
HRC.org

Violence Against the Transgender and Gender Non-Conforming Community in 2020
HRC.org

Financial Management

creditcard.com
Guide to LGBT Finances:  You can live a richer life
Members of the LGBTQ+ community have made strides towards equality but still experience unique obstacles in the personal finance space. According to a survey, 27% of LGBTQ+ Americans have an employer-sponsored retirement account such as a 401(k) when compared with 41% of non-LGBTQ+ respondents. This guide to helps LGBTQ+ Americans prepare for the financial future properly by providing expert advice on five key areas, including credit card debt, insurance, and retirement planning.  (Click on the yellow links in the pdf to open other related documents).

fiscaltiger.com
Financial Assistance Resources for Individuals With HIV/AIDS
Quality of life for individuals with HIV/AIDS may hinge on access to the medication and healthcare needed to curb infection and maintain health. There are resources available to financially assist or create access for individuals with HIV/AIDS to receive the treatment they require to live their life to the greatest potential.  Check it out!

Sexual Health

CDC – PrEP (Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis)
This CDC website answers some of the most common questions about PrEP.
https://www.cdc.gov/hiv/basics/prep.html

gmla.org
Ten Things Gay Men Should Discuss With Their Healthcare Provider

HIV and Health Disparities
amaze.org, 12-3-2020

 


Take The BDSM Test!  Click on bdsmtest.org

BDSM is an umbrella term for a variety of (often erotic) practices or roleplaying; it is an acronym representing three components:

BD: Bondage & Discipline (playing with physical restraints, training, punishment, etc.)
DS: Dominance & Submission (playing with obedience, power exchange, service, humility, etc.)
SM: Sadism & Masochism (playing with pain, degradation, fear, etc.)

More often than not, other ‘deviant’ sexual practices are also considered to be part of BDSM.  BDSM is a consensual activity respecting the fundamental rights of every human being involved; this separates it from sexual and domestic abuse.


Periodic Table of Kink (https://www.uberkinky.co.uk/)

Periodic Table of Kink

Fisting

Fisting (sometimes called handballing) is a sexual activity that involves inserting a hand into the vagina or rectum. Once insertion is complete, the fingers either naturally clench into a fist or remain straight. In more vigorous forms of fisting, such as “punching”, a fully clenched fist may be inserted and withdrawn slowly. Fisting may be performed with or without a partner. Below are a few resources for both novices and experts.

first_hand

First Hand: An Erotic Guide to Fisting

Tim Brough

“First Hand: An Erotic Guide To Fisting” starts with a history from noted Leather historian Jack Fritscher Ph.D. (which reads like a chronology of San Francisco through ’60’s and ’90’s) and ends with a hot piece of fiction from former Drummer magazine contributor and disabled-rights advocate, Michael Agreve. In between covering health with a Doctor and Physical Therapist, club life with two club presidents, the online experience via the webmaster of the RedRightWeb site, a man who recounted his first encounter with footing, and, in the book’s sixth chapter, dozens of brief interviews where the participants related their thoughts about handballing.

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Fist Me! The Complete Guide to Fisting

Stephan Niederwieser

Fisting is one of the extreme sports of gay sex. There’s no doubt that it can bring previously unknown satisfaction to those who practice it. From advice about how to wash thoroughly to tips about the right lube to use useful relaxation techniques and even a guide to the dark labyrinth inside the body. Sex expert Stephan Niederwieser covers everything you need to know about this ultimate path to sexual pleasure.

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